Any mode of communication is to express oneself, but this mode sometimes may create rift in the life of a budding relationship. Read
By BN Sinha, New Delhi
Who says that the 21st century urban Bishnupriya Manipuri coterie do not escalate the socio-cultural ethos of the community? Unfortunately, it is not correct to the perception the elderly Bishnupriya Manipuri s have about the educated modern Bishnupriya Manipuri youths that they are culturally less inclined to the community norms and are lackadaisical to its values.
A recent experience with one of my close Bishnupriya Manipuri mate illustrates how sentimental and concerned the modern Bishnupriya Manipuri youth are to their cultural identity and its uniqueness. It's an unpleasant fact that the urban educated Bishnupriya Manipuri youths had to sweat hard in the barren land of marriage to find an ideal match in their own community. Lack of openness in communication is considered one reason. Though there is no dearth of suitable candidates.
The story of my friend unfolds like this. My friend Sameer was feeling lucky that his friend Bina is suitable for him as both of them share a descent educational and family background and both were quite conversant with the latest modes of communication like internet chatting etc.
It is to be mentioned that Sameer is fairly established in a metro city of India and has been out of the core society for decades, first for completing higher education and later for pursuing career prospects. He is well acquainted and familiar with all the modern, urban hip-hops and lifestyles, and he is committed to get marry in his own community, the idea few of his so called Bishnupriya Manipuri friends find it weird.
On the other hand, Bina is an independent girl and stays in a separate city. Sameer's parents have chosen her for their son.
As Sameer and Bina started exchanging mails and sometime chats to get familiar with their traits and attributes, both of them found that their chemistry is perfect and compatible. Hell break loose in their budding relationship, when a mail from Sameer was misinterpreted by Bina. It went to such an extent that it not only gave a thunder-jolt to the relationship building process but it almost headed to layoff.
Sameer had simply wrote to Bina that he being in corporate world for more than 10years find himself more comfortable with the English language as he feels it is easier to find word in English and to express himself effectively. It's a fact that Sameer always considers himself as a responsible member of the community as he was associated with various community organizations. He just tried to be honest with Bina. But in day-to-day business it's the English languages that he uses more.
The mail was totally misinterpreted and misunderstood by Bina and she perceived Sameer as a snobbish and ostentatious person, who prefers English to his own mother tongue. And she replied with the strongest possible detesting words and told Sameer that for her it is her mother tongue that is Bishnupriya Manipuri and its culture and values which comes first and she will not hesitate to reconsider all her decision to get tied with him.
Her response fell like a hammer-blow on Sameer head, startled to know that even in the era of Facebook and You Tube there are Bishnupriya Manipuri youths instead of being well acquainted with modern sophisticated cosmopolitan lifestyles, still prefers to their own mother tongue and its cultural values. They are egomaniac to be identified as Bishnupriya Manipuri and they dont hesitate to send a gesture that they may layoff from any bonds or affairs, may it be a nuptial-knot.
Well… finally all ends well and reconciled in a positive note only after Sameer elaborately described his point of view towards his beloved Bishnupriya Manipuri community and also his love to Emar-Thar.
The story, truly holds the aphorism that the Bishnupriya Manipuri Gen X are less concerned about their culture and values, baseless and untrue.
Definitely, a sigh of relief to our cultural mongers and our forefathers…. ..
(The names Sameer and Bina are fictious. )
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By BN Sinha, New Delhi
Who says that the 21st century urban Bishnupriya Manipuri coterie do not escalate the socio-cultural ethos of the community? Unfortunately, it is not correct to the perception the elderly Bishnupriya Manipuri s have about the educated modern Bishnupriya Manipuri youths that they are culturally less inclined to the community norms and are lackadaisical to its values.A recent experience with one of my close Bishnupriya Manipuri mate illustrates how sentimental and concerned the modern Bishnupriya Manipuri youth are to their cultural identity and its uniqueness. It's an unpleasant fact that the urban educated Bishnupriya Manipuri youths had to sweat hard in the barren land of marriage to find an ideal match in their own community. Lack of openness in communication is considered one reason. Though there is no dearth of suitable candidates.
The story of my friend unfolds like this. My friend Sameer was feeling lucky that his friend Bina is suitable for him as both of them share a descent educational and family background and both were quite conversant with the latest modes of communication like internet chatting etc.
It is to be mentioned that Sameer is fairly established in a metro city of India and has been out of the core society for decades, first for completing higher education and later for pursuing career prospects. He is well acquainted and familiar with all the modern, urban hip-hops and lifestyles, and he is committed to get marry in his own community, the idea few of his so called Bishnupriya Manipuri friends find it weird.
On the other hand, Bina is an independent girl and stays in a separate city. Sameer's parents have chosen her for their son.
As Sameer and Bina started exchanging mails and sometime chats to get familiar with their traits and attributes, both of them found that their chemistry is perfect and compatible. Hell break loose in their budding relationship, when a mail from Sameer was misinterpreted by Bina. It went to such an extent that it not only gave a thunder-jolt to the relationship building process but it almost headed to layoff.
Sameer had simply wrote to Bina that he being in corporate world for more than 10years find himself more comfortable with the English language as he feels it is easier to find word in English and to express himself effectively. It's a fact that Sameer always considers himself as a responsible member of the community as he was associated with various community organizations. He just tried to be honest with Bina. But in day-to-day business it's the English languages that he uses more.
The mail was totally misinterpreted and misunderstood by Bina and she perceived Sameer as a snobbish and ostentatious person, who prefers English to his own mother tongue. And she replied with the strongest possible detesting words and told Sameer that for her it is her mother tongue that is Bishnupriya Manipuri and its culture and values which comes first and she will not hesitate to reconsider all her decision to get tied with him.
Her response fell like a hammer-blow on Sameer head, startled to know that even in the era of Facebook and You Tube there are Bishnupriya Manipuri youths instead of being well acquainted with modern sophisticated cosmopolitan lifestyles, still prefers to their own mother tongue and its cultural values. They are egomaniac to be identified as Bishnupriya Manipuri and they dont hesitate to send a gesture that they may layoff from any bonds or affairs, may it be a nuptial-knot.
Well… finally all ends well and reconciled in a positive note only after Sameer elaborately described his point of view towards his beloved Bishnupriya Manipuri community and also his love to Emar-Thar.
The story, truly holds the aphorism that the Bishnupriya Manipuri Gen X are less concerned about their culture and values, baseless and untrue.
Definitely, a sigh of relief to our cultural mongers and our forefathers…. ..
(The names Sameer and Bina are fictious. )
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Yes, BN SInha has rightly asserted that there are coterie of people they are not only elderly but in every age group who thinks that the present day youngsters are least concerned towards the community culture and customs.
ReplyDeleteNow the time has come when youngsters must be evolved in the activities of the community by given the space.
their resources of ideas must be utilized.
Thanks BN and above all for the real story that you have brought.
at the end i would say sameer is very lucky to have Bina in his life.
nice article Mr BN..only for people like Bina our language will not loose its identity..may Sameer and Bina's relationship strengthen more..and best wishes to both..
ReplyDeleteregards..Ranita
interesting !!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeletebn-da would u plz tell which font bina uses in her mail or chatting.
its roman, devnagari or something else ??
regards
prodip
hahahhahahhah
ReplyDeleteexcellent comment - prodip