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Marriage Arithmetic Mars

Solemnizing a marriage in the Bishnupriya Manipuri community calls for an acid test from both the parties. How?
By BN Sinha, New Delhi

It is said that marriages are made in heaven and performed on earth. Then why this hue and cry about the matchmaking, why don’t we sit idle and wait for the occasion to happen to us automatically.

Well, it is a fact that considerable amount of luck plays a role in finding a soul mate or a better half. A marriage in one’s life is supposed to be the most auspicious and important incident in ones life. There is no fixed time frame for a person to get married as it depends on many issues related to personal and social aspects and also there are strict rituals and customs in every community to perform a marriage.

Even in the 21st century sci-fi era, instead of all those modern lifestyles people still love to follow all the typical community customs or norms when it comes to performing a marriage.

As we know that in love marriages the partners are adequately conversant with all the characteristics of each other before they get into the nuptial knot unlike the arranged marriages where the matchmaking or to find out a suitable candidate is always a very difficult task to accomplish.

It is always tough to find a person who can share, care and understand until someone is legitimately blessed. Lot of sacrifice, compromise and adaptability is required in arranged marriages.

Refer to Bishnupriya Manipuri community, to search out a soul mate or an ideal life partner is probably the most difficult task especially for the aspiring bride or groom who are out of the core society and are in far away places.

Brishnupriya Manipuri being a small community in numbers so also there are countable numbers of highly educated, despite it is always a sweating experience to find out a suitable match.

Unlike other community there are many norms and obligatory customs to be followed in order to find a match, which indeed makes it tougher and dismal to arrange a suitable match.

First, the aspiring couple should not fall into the same lokei/sakei and gutro. If they belong to the different lokei but fall into same gutro then it is not matched. If this hurdle is over then it comes to the horoscope matching; not to mention even the modern sci-fi society also could not come out of the belief of horoscope match.

Now, if this hurdle is also over then it comes to the family equilibrium and the physical and intellectual eligibility of the candidates. After all the barriers are over, it finally through if the aspiring couples find themselves compatible to each other in the case that either of them is pre-engaged.

Now the question is when an eligible Bishnupriya Manipuri bachelor who is out of the core society and stays in far away places tries to find a suitable match he genuinely feels the heat. It is not that there is a dearth of eligible males and females but the point is that to find out one by abiding all the preset social norms where the whole community itself is still lacking in openness in communication, it becomes really a grueling and exhausting experience.

Sometimes I ponder.. do we need more relaxed social set of laws in marriages? Or is it my apprehension that there may be a possible threat for the eligible urban Brishnupriya Manipuri bachelors?…. I don’t know….

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Comments

  1. hello BN sinha,

    the article seems talks about me.
    and i suppose to all the BM bachelors.

    yeah the arithmetic that goes into the marriage in painstaking.

    particularly at this time when BM people scattered all over the world.

    do write
    ur article gives a break to me.

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  2. I agree with Arrow of Heart.I totally agree with you. Frankly speaking this is one of your best artiles. I have read all your articles.

    ReplyDelete

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